This is the conclusion of the series: Dating Guide 101. Previously, we talked about the DOs and DONTs while on a date. On this last installment, take note of the things to remember right after the date itself.
Last-minute reminders before ending the date.
- Be sure to express your personal and relationship goals. The other party must be aware if you’re really out looking for a relationship or if you’re just in for the friendship. This might be the turning point if there would be a “continuation to the saga”.
- Unless you’re tremendously attracted and you feel that he/she is as well, do not voice your plans about the next date. You might sound too eager that you’ll turn him/her off. Worse, you might scare him/her away, you’ll leave an impression of becoming a potential stalker.
- Do not request for their social media profiles. No to add me on Facebook, follow me on twitter. Save it if you’re in a relationship already.
- Contemplate on how to say goodbye. A walk to the doorway might look promising. A polite farewell might mean “Nice meeting you, I hope I don’t see you again.” A handshake might connote “Thanks for the evening. You certainly have the makings of a good buddy.” For the ladies, be honest with the guy if after the first date, there’s no spark on your end. Be gentle but firm with your words.
- Do not pressure him/her for a kiss or hug. If the feeling is mutual, it will all come naturally. Do not go too intimate right after the date even if your human pheromones suggest otherwise. If you do, you might send the wrong signal that you’re just a “fling” material, not someone up “for keeps.”
- On your way home, text something short and sweet. This is a great way to end a successful night.
- Immediately weigh up the positives and negatives of the event. Did you have something in common? Did you connect at some level?
- Assess if he/she is interested. Did he/she maintain eye contact? Was there a little flirting? Was there any incident when you do have felt as if his pheromones were at work? In the manner of how the two of you communicated, was there ease? Were you comfy that you didn’t notice the time passed you by? Was there chemistry?
- Do not be hasty in making your final assessment. If the date didn’t sound so good but he/she seems nice, give him another chance. It might just be a case of “being in a wrong place at a wrong time”.
The two-day rule.
- Allot at least two days before you get in touch again. A day later might mean you’re too desperate. A week might signify you have no intention to pursue her anymore.
- Learn the word “compromise”. For men, give her an option to say no BUT remember to convey that you are interested and willing to wait. For women, in case you are busy with your sched, recommend an alternative where you’ll be most available.
- How to contact her. You can either make a call or have a bunch of flowers delivered to her home to subtlety inform that you like her.