Every relationship goes through issues and problems. The goal is not a relationship that has no issues or problems but to have a relationship that can face these issues and problems well. Since a relationship involves two people, making the relationship work depends on both people involved in the relationship. It is never just the problem of one person. At the start of a relationship, the pheromone advantage may prevent issues and problems from coming up but as time goes by, human pheromones will not be able to solve your problems for you.
Many couples, especially after trying to solve their issues and problems on their own, decide to have couples counseling to help them deal better. However, some couples or maybe the other person in the relationship, are not automatically receptive to having couples counseling. Below are just a few of the reasons why it is good to try.
- Have a neutral, third party to play referee and be a mediator. Discussing issues or problems that keep on coming up in the relationship is difficult. If something keeps on becoming a problem, then you have probably reached a point where you will discuss it in the same way, manner, and perspective. Having someone to help direct your discussion is a good way to see the issue in a different perspective.
- Improve communication. People who offer couples counseling may not know everything there is to know when it comes to relationships but they can offer various ways you can communicate better with your partner. In almost any issue or problem, communication plays a key role in resolving it. Couples counseling is not designed to solve your issues and problems for you, but it can arm you with communication tools and skills so that the two of you can address your issues and problems better.
- Work in progress. A relationship takes a lot of hard work and going to couples counseling is just one way of working on it. For busy couples, having regular couples counseling is one way to ensure that they are facing the issues and problems that they have in their relationship instead of getting lost amidst their busy lives. Unfortunately, even minor issues and problems result in a serious strain in a relationship. Having counseling is a good way to continue working on these minor issues and problems that are often put aside because of other more important and pressing things.