Relationship Tips For Women: Top Ten (10) Mistakes To Avoid As A Girlfriend

Love can bring the extremes in a person. It can take you to the highest peak if you’re happy yet lead you to the lowest point imaginable if you’re sad. Because of this, like any normal being, everyone makes mistakes and we, women, are not an exception.loveHere are the top ten (10) cardinal DONT’s every good girlfriend should avoid so as not to scare your guy away and make him running to another woman’s arms.

1.       Don’t be a vine. What are the characteristics of a vine? They are naturally green and clingy. For a girl in love, it’s understandable to want to see your boyfriend each chance you get, hear his voice, smell his cologne, or watch him laugh. Love can do that. However, it’s no longer healthy if you lose your own self and become merely his shadow, wanting to know consistently where he is, what’s he’s doing and who he is with. Get a life! Give him privacy and respect his space.
 
2.       Don’t play Rapunzel… daily. There’s a big difference between a damsel in distress and a pain in a butt. It’s a totally different thing to be helpless and to be desperate. Do not be a crazed needy individual. If your act is to be a Rapunzel who wants to be rescued every lil time, even the most patient, persistent prince would get tired climbing that sky-scraping tower if he has to do it time and time again. Worse, he might even tie up your thick long hair to the tree branch so you’d stop pestering him like a kid. Let him need you for a change.
 
3.       Don’t be a soap opera queen. If you’re aiming for Oscar’s or Emmy’s and testing how effective your tears are with your partner, you better think again. Drama won’t get you anywhere. It might have its effect the first few times, but it won’t last long if you make it a habit and become a cry-baby. He would want someone who’s emotionally mature and not an emotional wreck.

4.        Don’t be aqua-phobic or cringe at the sight of a comb. Hygiene is important so throw away your fear of water and take a bath everyday. Do not be unhygienic and unappealing. Look for ways to improve your appearance and femininity. Wow him! Wear your hair down or lift it up to have a tantalizing glimpse of your incredibly smooth neck. Let your human pheromones take over and seduce him with your looks, clothes and scent. Nothing is more exciting than a lady who knows how to get her man with just one glance.
 
5.       Don’t be a 24/7 helpdesk agent. It’s all about keeping the spice and allowing him to chase you and you being not so easy to get. There’s nothing wrong being a helpdesk or for being there when he needs you. But then again, learn how to moderate it else you’d end up being his house-help and taken for granted.
 
6.       Don’t be a female version of Magneto. If you’re an XMEN fan, you’d recognize right away that Magneto controls magnetic fields and can manipulate any electromagnetic energy. In this case, avoid being a control freak. Men hates to be controlled, most of all, by women. Don’t be a pushover. We have our own power and if we use it wisely and timely in a non-manipulative way, we can keep our guys satisfied and get what we want at the same time. Give him the upper hand. On the other hand, ensure that he also realizes that you can always turn the table around if you really want to.
 
7.       Don’t be blinded with the “I” letter, there’s also a “U” in the alphabet. Being self-centered will do you no good. Love is a give and take partnership. No matter how high the attraction level is and how strong the pheromones do their work, if you’re too self-absorbed who continuously say “I, I, I” and doesn’t know how to listen, you’d be bound to have a disastrous relationship at one time or another. Educate yourself with the word “compromise”.
 
8.       Don’t be a fortune teller. Never make him feel like you are all knowing and can predict what’s going to happen in the future. They are generally on their guards when it comes to “lifetime commitment”. So, if you have been together for a few months, talking about bells and linens and little bundles of joy at this early stage would surely make him a runner vying for an Olympics gold medal, where the medal is placed in the farthest corner of the earth, zillion miles away from you. If you’re a couple for sometime now, there are several techniques to approach marriage like two adults. On the same note, keep your clairvoyant skills to yourself and prevent reliving the past and ex-es while with him. Once or twice is okay to see his reaction perhaps or gauge if he’d get jealous. More than that is a big NO.
 
9.       Don’t be a Tupperware. Don’t be plastic. Show him the real you. If you’re pleased, be transparent. If you’re down and hurting, do not hesitate to confide in him. Hiding your real self would not be fair to you and to him. Be true. Honesty is the only way to go.
 
10.   Don’t run for the title of “the best martyr in the planet”. What happens to martyrs these days? They die. Sure, in a relationship, you have your own sacrifices to make but it always is and will be a two-way street. Do not always be the one to make the first move in times of a big fight. Do not be too eager to please. Respect yourself and have some pride.

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Tips For Women: Six (6) Signs To Tell If He’s The One

How would you know if your boyfriend is the one? Incredible romantics would say “you would just know”. However, it is not as simple as that. You need a more solid proof or further indication to back that up else you could end up either becoming a playgirl switching lovers the way you switch clothes daily or worse, being an old maid, hopelessly waiting for that one non-existent guy to sweep you off your feet. Here are six (6) signs to guide you in telling if he’s the one.

  1. There’s friendship. What constitute friendship? Respect, honesty, faith, loyalty, and support. You have your own differences yet have mutual respect. You give and receive tough love and understand that honesty is a must. You trust and believe in one another. You are both loyal even in the middle of disagreements and challenges. You are there to stand by, defend, protect and support the other when needed. Just like a best friend, your family, loved ones and circle of friends agree that he brings out the best in you and vice versa.
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  2. There’s mutual attraction. That sizzling chemistry is ever present. You feel pheromones at work every time you’re together. You find your scents irresistible – you with his aftershave, him with your pheromone cologne, even natural sweat. The movements, the manner of talking pull you closer to one another. There’s a thirst to know anything and everything – good, bad, ugly.
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  3. Love never ceases and maturity grows. It gets stronger as each day passes by. Everyday, you find different reasons to love and fall in love. Regardless if you had a big fight a few minutes ago and had a shouting match, you are both matured and secured as individuals to welcome it as an added spice in the relationship and consider it normal as breathing itself.
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  4. Words are not necessary. One quick look at his face and you know what’s he’s undergoing. It’s similar for him when he sees you. It’s like being part of each other that you fully understand what it’s like without uttering a word. You’re comfortable with your spaces. You can sit in silence for an hour without talking nor touching and still think that it’s the most special moment you shared. This signifies how at ease you are with the company of the other that spending a lifetime is not scary at all but instead, something to look forward to.
  5. Flaws and fine points are not separate and seen as one. You accept him for what he is and he does too to you. You are yourself. You don’t need to wear make up and take super pains to appear pretty just so to impress him. He doesn’t have to be really cool and sexy to capture and maintain your interest. You’re still perfect in his eyes as he is to you. You’ve seen the worst of each other and you don’t mind a bit.
  6. You have the same goals and dreams. You want the same things in life. It all goes down on how you see the future. You agree and compromise on things that really matter – living in the suburbs, having kids, enriching family values and the like.

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Tips For Dating An Older Woman

Thanks to the movies like The Graduate and the TV series Cougar Town, a younger guy dating an older woman is not such an unusual situation nowadays. Being called a cougar is not a bad thing anymore in this day and age and with popular cougars like Demi Moore, many young men find them very attractive.

The appeal of older women cannot be attributed to human pheromones alone. Although some may say that a younger guy-older woman relationship may answer the question on how do pheromones work, it cannot be denied that some older women have a certain appeal to younger men. They seem wiser, more sensual, and more self-assured than younger women so some guys prefer to date someone older.

Naturally, dating an older woman will have its own unique set of challenges. Below are some tips for guys who prefer to date an older woman.

  • Be confident. If you are the type of guy who cannot decide for himself, shy, and clingy, then dating an older woman is not for you. Older women will not be bothered with men who would like to be mothered; they prefer someone who is assertive, confident, and self-assured.

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  • Treat her as an equal. Do not make your age difference an issue for your relationship. Instead, treat her as an equal in everything. Never refer to her as a cougar and best not to point out that she is much older than you.

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  • Respect her. Every girl, no matter the age, deserves respect. But older women will not tolerate any disrespect. These women have experienced a lot and gone through a lot in their lives, probably more than your share of stuff, and respect is something they will expect from their guy.

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  • Know what you want in life. An older woman is probably aware of what she wants in her life and she will be turned off with a guy who does not know what he wants in life. It is important that you have figured out your goals for your future and you have focus. Older women do not like uncertainty and this applies to men that have many issues in their lives.

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  • Don’t try to change her. It is the doom of your relationship if you so much as think about changing her. Older women are set in their ways and will not appreciate being changed by a younger man.

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Dating Guide 101: Things to Remember After Going On A Date

This is the conclusion of the series: Dating Guide 101. Previously, we talked about the DOs and DONTs while on a date. On this last installment, take note of the things to remember right after the date itself.

Last-minute reminders before ending the date.

  • Be sure to express your personal and relationship goals. The other party must be aware if you’re really out looking for a relationship or if you’re just in for the friendship. This might be the turning point if there would be a “continuation to the saga”.
  • Unless you’re tremendously attracted and you feel that he/she is as well, do not voice your plans about the next date. You might sound too eager that you’ll turn him/her off. Worse, you might scare him/her away, you’ll leave an impression of becoming a potential stalker.
  • Do not request for their social media profiles. No to add me on Facebook, follow me on twitter. Save it if you’re in a relationship already.

The farewell.

  • Contemplate on how to say goodbye. A walk to the doorway might look promising. A polite farewell might mean “Nice meeting you, I hope I don’t see you again.” A handshake might connote “Thanks for the evening. You certainly have the makings of a good buddy.” For the ladies, be honest with the guy if after the first date, there’s no spark on your end. Be gentle but firm with your words.
  • Do not pressure him/her for a kiss or hug. If the feeling is mutual, it will all come naturally. Do not go too intimate right after the date even if your human pheromones suggest otherwise. If you do, you might send the wrong signal that you’re just a “fling” material, not someone up “for keeps.”
  • On your way home, text something short and sweet. This is a great way to end a successful night.

The assessment.

  • Immediately weigh up the positives and negatives of the event. Did you have something in common? Did you connect at some level?
  • Assess if he/she is interested. Did he/she maintain eye contact? Was there a little flirting? Was there any incident when you do have felt as if his pheromones were at work? In the manner of how the two of you communicated, was there ease? Were you comfy that you didn’t notice the time passed you by? Was there chemistry?
  • Do not be hasty in making your final assessment. If the date didn’t sound so good but he/she seems nice, give him another chance. It might just be a case of “being in a wrong place at a wrong time”.

The two-day rule.

  • Allot at least two days before you get in touch again. A day later might mean you’re too desperate. A week might signify you have no intention to pursue her anymore.
  • Learn the word “compromise”. For men, give her an option to say no BUT remember to convey that you are interested and willing to wait. For women, in case you are busy with your sched, recommend an alternative where you’ll be most available.
  • How to contact her. You can either make a call or have a bunch of flowers delivered to her home to subtlety inform that you like her.

Three (3) Major Reasons Why People Use Pheromone Scents

Some of you might have heard of the word “pheromone”, some might have not. If you haven’t yet, reading Five (5) Things You Need to Know About Pheromones could give you a primer of what it is in general. If you do have an idea about it already, the next question is, would you consider using men or women pheromones products? The following reasons might help you decide.

  1. Romance and that “happily ever after”. Love makes the world go round. You feel it in your fingers, you feel it in your toes. And yet you’re always two steps behind. These are basically the three types who fall under this category.
  • Single, not technically committed because once the object of affection knew about your feelings, the relationship is off. You finally found someone that knocks you off your feet. The problem is, he/she doesn’t realize you exist. How do you change that and catch his/her interest? As he/she gets to know you, how do you trigger that romantic feeling and have you both end up saying “I do”?
  • Single, the auction is on. You got the looks, maybe. You got the personality, perhaps. But no one is bidding for your attention. What in the world is wrong with you? How do you dramatically improve your appeal to get more dates? Do pheromones really work?
  • In a relationship or married but it’s kind of complicated. Guess what, you’re finally with the one that makes you feel complete. Screech, halt. Trouble in paradise! How do you spice it up and make love sweeter the second, third and fourth time around? How do you elevate the intimacy excitement? 
  1. Confidence. Be a man or woman of the world. Sophisticated. Experienced. A person who exudes incredible confidence. How do you increase that level of poise and coolness? How do you make people take a second look at your seductive and desirable self without lifting a finger?
  1. Career. There are millions of you in the corporate world. You’re a plain Jane or John. Sure you have the brains but you probably don’t have the charismatic looks to dominate a higher position. How do you stand out and get people to become aware of you? How do you gain that extra competitive edge and show that you have what it takes?

Dating After A Breakup

Getting back on your feet after a breakup, especially a bad one, can be quite a challenge. For a lot of people, there are many issues that one will have to face on his or her own once the dust of a breakup has settled. Still, there will come a time when you will recover and want to go back to the dating scene. Below are some tips to help you get back to dating after a breakup.

  • Do not go into rebound. Do not make the mistake of dating on a rebound. Make sure that you are ready to date and that you are not dating simply to get back at your ex or to forget your ex.
  • Be patient. Some people waver in their self-confidence after a breakup. If you feel you are ready but do not have anyone to date, learn to be patient and wait for the right time and person. There is no need to go for women pheromones to attract men who would be willing to date you because you might end up wondering do pheromones work. Someone will come along at the right time that will help you start enjoying dating again.
  • Take it easy. No matter how your last relationship ended, remember to take it easy. Do not start thinking that you will have the same kind of relationship with the next person you date. And your next relationship does not necessarily have to be the last one. Just take it easy and enjoy yourself.
  • Make things clear with your date. It is not a bad idea to clear the air with your date by telling him or her about your expectations. Make it clear whether you are not looking for something serious or you are setting your sight for the long haul.