How To Get Through Infidelity In A Relationship

Infidelity is a problem that often comes up in many relationships. Unfortunately, it is a very challenging issue in any relationship and it can make even the strongest relationships end. Having your partner cheat on you will bring about feelings of betrayal, anger, and even guilt. Various reasons such as temptation, human pheromones, feelings of inadequacy, and unmet needs, among other things, are often given as factors that could lead to infidelity.

No matter what reason is given, remember that there is no acceptable reason for your partner to be unfaithful. However, infidelity does not necessarily mean that a relationship has to end. Some couples can get through infidelity in a relationship with some hard work and persistence. Below are some tips on how you can help your relationship survive if one partner has been unfaithful.

  • Stop the affair. No matter what reason may be given for the infidelity, the first thing to do to save the relationship is to end the affair. Unless this happens, there will be very little chance for the relationship to survive.
  • Discuss openly. There will be a lot of bad feelings that will also be exposed but it is important to discuss what happened openly. Talk to each other about what happened and how it made you feel. Try not to point fingers and start blaming each other. For some couples, this is done in a more peaceful and productive manner in the presence of a therapist or counselor.
  • Take responsibility for your faults. It is important to realize that when one person has been unfaithful, the fault lies not just in that person. Fault is often shared although it may not be equally. It does not matter who is more at fault. What’s important is that you both recognize your own faults in what and why it happened.
  • Make a firm decision to move forward. Both of you should be firm in your decision to move forward. This is easier said than done because there will be a lot of times when all the negative thoughts and feelings associated with what happened will come back. It will take some time before any of you starts wearing pheromone cologne for each other but with a conscious and firm decision to continue moving forward and working on the relationship, that time will come.
  • Have a plan. Together with your decision to move forward, both of you should have a plan. How do you make sure that it doesn’t happen again? How do you address the issues or reasons for the infidelity? Best of all, give yourself time to heal and recognize that things will not be back to how it was that quickly.

Tips For Women: Six (6) Signs To Tell If He’s The One

How would you know if your boyfriend is the one? Incredible romantics would say “you would just know”. However, it is not as simple as that. You need a more solid proof or further indication to back that up else you could end up either becoming a playgirl switching lovers the way you switch clothes daily or worse, being an old maid, hopelessly waiting for that one non-existent guy to sweep you off your feet. Here are six (6) signs to guide you in telling if he’s the one.

  1. There’s friendship. What constitute friendship? Respect, honesty, faith, loyalty, and support. You have your own differences yet have mutual respect. You give and receive tough love and understand that honesty is a must. You trust and believe in one another. You are both loyal even in the middle of disagreements and challenges. You are there to stand by, defend, protect and support the other when needed. Just like a best friend, your family, loved ones and circle of friends agree that he brings out the best in you and vice versa.
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  2. There’s mutual attraction. That sizzling chemistry is ever present. You feel pheromones at work every time you’re together. You find your scents irresistible – you with his aftershave, him with your pheromone cologne, even natural sweat. The movements, the manner of talking pull you closer to one another. There’s a thirst to know anything and everything – good, bad, ugly.
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  3. Love never ceases and maturity grows. It gets stronger as each day passes by. Everyday, you find different reasons to love and fall in love. Regardless if you had a big fight a few minutes ago and had a shouting match, you are both matured and secured as individuals to welcome it as an added spice in the relationship and consider it normal as breathing itself.
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  4. Words are not necessary. One quick look at his face and you know what’s he’s undergoing. It’s similar for him when he sees you. It’s like being part of each other that you fully understand what it’s like without uttering a word. You’re comfortable with your spaces. You can sit in silence for an hour without talking nor touching and still think that it’s the most special moment you shared. This signifies how at ease you are with the company of the other that spending a lifetime is not scary at all but instead, something to look forward to.
  5. Flaws and fine points are not separate and seen as one. You accept him for what he is and he does too to you. You are yourself. You don’t need to wear make up and take super pains to appear pretty just so to impress him. He doesn’t have to be really cool and sexy to capture and maintain your interest. You’re still perfect in his eyes as he is to you. You’ve seen the worst of each other and you don’t mind a bit.
  6. You have the same goals and dreams. You want the same things in life. It all goes down on how you see the future. You agree and compromise on things that really matter – living in the suburbs, having kids, enriching family values and the like.

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Tips For Choosing The Best Cologne

You have probably heard of the terms cologne and perfume used interchangeably over the years. However, a cologne and a perfume, although they have their similarities, are different. A cologne is more diluted than perfume and hence, less expensive as well. Often labeled as “eau de toilette”, directly translated as toilet water, a cologne is not as long lasting as a perfume.

Since colognes still serve their purpose, which is to put scent, a lot of people prefer to use them instead of the more expensive perfumes. There are many different cologne in the market and the variety of scents is limitless. You can use a pheromone cologne to attract women because this is a type of cologne that contains pheromones.

With the wide selection of colognes to choose from, some people find it hard to pick one that is right for them. Below are some tips for choosing the best cologne for you.

  • Avoid synthetic compounds. A lot of colognes include ingredients that may cause skin problems. If you have a history of eczema, rashes, dermatitis, and hives, avoid colognes that have synthetic compounds. Some ingredients to steer clear from acetone, benzyl alcohol, benzyl acetate, limonene, benzaldehyde, ethyl acetate, a-pinene, and linalool.
  • Choose based on your skin type. You will be putting or spraying your cologne on your skin so it is very important to know what your skin type is to make sure that the cologne you will choose will be enhanced by the type of skin that you have. Those will oily skin will benefit most from colognes with a light citrus scent or light, airy, summertime scents. If you have dry skin, then scents do not last very long on your skin so it is good to try heavier or thicker scent.
  • Try out the cologne on your skin. Do not just rely on colognes sprayed on paper when choosing the scent for you. Different colognes adhere differently to different people so it is better to spray the cologne on your skin to try it out. This will test not just the individual smell of the cologne but also the resulting scent once it has mixed with your sweat and the natural moisture on your body.
  • Wait several hours before buying. When buying cologne, do not buy within the next few minutes after trying the cologne on your body. Colognes change scents over a span of several hours so it is best to wear the cologne first for four to six hours before buying it.

Tips for Buying Perfume for Your Partner

Whether there is a special occasion coming up or you simply want to surprise your significant other, buying a gift is something that you will do at least once. Among the usual options when buying a gift for a partner is perfume.

However, giving perfume to your partner can be quite tricky. For your partner to really appreciate it, the perfume has to appeal to his or her sense of smell. Below are some tips to help you when buying perfume for your partner.

  • Go for his or her signature perfume. If your partner has a perfume that he or she is loyal to, it is safest to buy the same perfume for him or her. However, this will only work best if he or she has an almost empty bottle of perfume. Otherwise, your gift might sit for a long time in storage before it gets opened and used. So make sure to make a discreet check of how much more perfume your partner still has. You may also try asking your partner whether he or she is running out of perfume soon.
  • Go for his or her personality. If you are planning on buying a new scent for your partner, make sure to go for a scent that suits his or her personality. Is your partner sporty? Do you think a floral smell or a citrus one will fit her better? Choose a perfume whose scent reminds you of your partner. You might also want to try giving a pheromone cologne which supposedly makes the wearer more attractive to the opposite sex with the inclusion of human pheromones in its ingredients.

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  • Go for a popular one. It might also be a safe option for you to choose among the most popular perfumes in the market. There are many branded perfumes such as those by Dolce & Gabbana, Calvin Klein, Dior, Ralph Lauren, Versace, and many more. However, these branded perfumes can be quite pricey. If you prefer something that is not very expensive but smells as good as a particular brand or scent, consider looking for imitation perfumes that are designed to smell like the real branded ones.
  • Go for a seasonal one. Various perfumes appeal to different seasons. Some perfumes are better worn during the summer while there are some that are better during colder weather. Choose a perfume that is appropriate for the season or the weather in your location.

Reading Your Date’s Body Language: Top Ten (10) Signs She’s Into You

If you’re a guy and you like your date very much, it would show in the way you move and talk. But how would you know if she feels the same? Here are top ten (10) signs that she’s into you as well.

  1. 1.      Short sideway glances.

Additional Signs: takes a number of brief glimpses along your side; have that dreamy five-second gazes, then would look away and glances right back

What it means: she finds you appealing

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  1. 2.      Self-grooming gestures.

Additional Signs: smoothes hair or clothes, crosses or uncrosses her legs

What it means: she wants you to concentrate or remain focused on her

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  1. 3.      Licks lips.

Additional Sign: flutters her eyelashes

What it means: coy romantic invitation or look at her best assets

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  1. 4.      Reveals neck.

Additional Signs: exposes and rubs her wrist. Perhaps, you’ll even get a whiff of her pheromone cologne.

What it means: willing to listen what you have to say

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  1. 5.      Takes more sips on wine.

Additional Sign: any clues that show nervous excitement

What it means: you excite her, in a good sense, that her women pheromones are on red alert

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  1. 6.      Sits forward.

Additional Signs: raises eyebrows or gasps when you reach the climax of your story

What it means: the manner in which you connect with her thrills her

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  1. 7.      Smiles widely.

Additional Sign: you can see the top and bottom of her teeth

What it means: you have the ability to please her

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  1. 8.      Laughs a lot.

Additional Signs: giggles even if there’s nothing particularly funny or laughs a lil bit on the flirty side

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  1. 9.      You have her full attention.

Additional Signs: ignores everything but you – a ringing phone or a good looking guy across the other table trying to catch her interest

What it means: you’re on the right track, you’re doing it right.

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  1. 10.  Calls you by a nickname.

Additional Sign: calls you by your complete first name

What it means: she doesn’t want to be another one of your mate and she looks forward to something more intimate